I never…

Did you ever play this game? It is a personal version of Liar’s Dice, you make a statement about yourself that begins “I never…” and your opponents try to guess whether or not you are telling the truth. Drinking game or not, the choice is yours.  It goes a little something like this…

I never…

Expected to have two cats and a dog as pets. This statement is true, I grew up with no pets and never really wanted them, yet here they are lying at my feet, making my life crazier and happier at the same time. This is a harmless statement. Most people start this game with this type of innocuous statement.

Jumped from a 29 ft. cliff into a natural pool of water.  This is false. I jumped the summer I turned forty. The jump is written about on this blog somewhere. This statement might open up a discussion with friends, its a deeper  “let’s get to know more about each other”. A great icebreaker which could lead to even deeper revelations later in the game. 

 What is the point of “I never”? I think it is two-fold, first you are enjoying the company of your friends and you are having a good time. The second reason people play this game is to cautiously expose themselves to friends. Each statement becomes a bit closer to your core, a bit closer to revealing parts of you to people you may trust or just are beginning to trust.

I never…

lied to my parents about where I was. Seriously? I would call ”bullshit” on this statement immediately. This type of statement is great if you are playing this game with multi-generational players. If so, alcohol would not be appropriate, just in case you were wondering.  This game is fun and allows kids to find out about their parent’s experiences growing up and allows parents to gain insight into their kid’s lives and values. The discussion should be age-appropriate and the consequences of poor decisions also need to be discussed. Warning: what happens in the game of “I Never” stays with the game of “I Never”!

fell in love with someone who was already taken. Wow! Now we are getting deep. This, by the way, is utterly false, I fell long and hard for someone who was/is with someone else – and it still hurts to this day.  This statement reflects the game getting deep; someone will make a statement like this and this type of utter exposure can bring the table to a standstill. That’s not a bad thing. This revelation will also brings people closer together and allows the participants and opportunity to offer compassion to each other.

Why would you want to play this game? Who would you play this game with? Maybe your partner in crime, maybe friends you want to get to know better. Maybe you use it as a communication technique when you are trying to find the right words to express something difficult to someone you love. Maybe  you just play it with a group of friends hanging around a picnic table at a park on a beautiful summer afternoon.

Maybe it is just a game. Maybe its a bit more. You never will know unless you try.


About schetgenhaus

life is good and only getting better - looking for ways to see the heart of a person each and every day - if the chatter is too loud - simply turn down the volume - but don't tune out - you might miss something grand!
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